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What keeps Marriage ticking?

All marriages have good and bad patches.

An young AOL devotee from Mumbai is doing AMC (Advanced meditation course with shakti kriya) in presence of Gurudev. He had this concern.

My parents have been married for 25 years now. When I am with father I feel he is right. When I am with mother I feel she is right. But they still keep fighting and are still not able to maintain harmonious relationship. 

To this Gurudev replied

Let them continue the way they are. Be totally with each of them. Do not overdo to change them, unless ofcourse the fight is beyond control. Only then you use your strength to stand in between them. They have continues like this and probably will for another 20-25 years. Don't loose your peace on their marriage.

Let me tell you about a man who kept fighting with his wife. When asked "Why he fought so much with his wife" he replied "If I have to love somebody and fight with somebody else then it will be all the more challenging.So I am better off fighting and loving the same person". 

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