Friday, April 05, 2013

Good girl

The culture of Good Girl is ingrained from montessori or nursery into our system. I was playing with my 3 year old. She had taken a scissor and wanted to cut papers. Normally we would charge and pounce on her and take it away from her saying you will hurt yourself. This  time for some unknown reason I LET IT BE.

Her sister saw and she ran away from her into another room.
Her mother saw and she ran further away.

She knew the scissors would be taken away from her. But they enquired and I said, she was cutting paper and they too LET IT BE.

She was cutting it so well, repeating the instructions that she would have learnt at Aura Montessori.
Now, cut like this.
Now, Move like this.

After a while she got confidence  in me that I will not snatch away her game so she called me to sit beside her. Then, she said its your turn.

I went away inside. She came back and made a box like thing from paper and asked me write "Good Girl" on it. I did. She said Thank you and went away and made parallel cut into the cardboard.

Again she came, asking Write "good girl" here. Then she asked me to write "Good Papa" because I was helping her. Then she asked me write "Good Trisha" for her cousin sister. Then she asked me to write "Good Chacha" because he brought donuts a few days back.

When she angry she calls me "Bad girl".
When she is happy she calls me "Good girl".

Do we really need the "Good" label? 

Thursday, April 04, 2013

Work ethics from painters

The supervisor belongs to small town in Kerala. The workers are from Raichur and Davangere, small towns few hundreds of kilometers from Bangalore. They had not gone through any formal management training or personality development programs on assertiveness or communications or team building skills.

They come on time. Sharp at 9:30 AM.

On the first day of work they cleaned up the room, moved all heavy furniture, little items into other rooms. At the end of day, they asked "Do you need to move the items back into the room?".

They bring their own lunch. They take their lunch break in the room itself. The room that is getting painted.

They clean up room before work.
They clean up room after work.

They close work on time. Sharp at 6 PM.

Yesterday, one of them came out to take the mobile phone call.

The only thing they ask you is Water, the supervisor asked for tea yesterday.

The supervisor does not negotiate on price, its fixed. He keeps suggesting other works that he can do. He is expert in cross selling. He said my spouse wanted the cupboards painted too, she only suggested to paint a portion which was left by the carpenters. The carpenters have tendency to leave invisible portions of furniture untouched, unpainted. If I had said Yes, he would have painted and charged us for same. So, we need to communicate more. Communication builds relationships.

When they come, they smile. When they leave, they smile.

Do you do any of the above at your workplace? Or you simply push around for next promotion, next raise, next change of job?

Meditating Distance

What creates distance in relationships?

Why do you feel disconnected?

Why is there no juice in relationships?

Who is responsible and why?

Most of the times its YOU. Other times it could be them, its rare.

You don't love yourself. Your presence is weak. You thrive on self-pity. Oh! What will happen to me? me. me and more me.

In meditation, you get CLOSER to yourSELF. The whole purpose of meditation is to bring peace and bliss in the end. The purpose of meditation is not to shake you or give you weird experiences. If abnormal and uncontrollable things happen in meditation its because the energy is realigning your lost direction, your purposes, your vision and mission of life.

Meditation shifts your focus from withOUT to withIN.

The whole purpose of meditation is to improve your today and give you a better tomorrow.

The purpose is to improve relationships, with you and everybody around you. Simple.

How has meditation filled the voids of your life? Leave them as comments and move on to fill voids in your and others life. 

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

Family responsibility as seva. What is service?

The life brings responsibilities.
Life also brings attractions.
Mind loves playing with attractions.
As kid toys and ice creams were attractions, responsibility was none.
As boys and girls friends were attractions and responsibility was their well being.
As teenagers rebellion was attraction and education was responsibility.
Early in career short term relationships and money was attraction and loyalty to company was responsibility.
Early post marriage spouse was attraction and taking care of her was responsibility.
Parenting created children as attraction and taking care of them was responsibility.

Now the attraction is spirituality and responsibility is family.

If you consider repayment of your home loan and generating education funds for your children as seva then it becomes easier. If you consider profession or career as burden then it becomes pain.

You may love satsang, you may love your sadhana and you may have your definition of seva. If your definition of seva is inclusive of family and neighborhood then it becomes easier. If seva is something to be done in ashram or in any other set environment then its restrictive and is a partial view.

Family is spirituality.
Family is seva.

What is your definition of seva?

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