The culture of Good Girl is ingrained from montessori or nursery into our system. I was playing with my 3 year old. She had taken a scissor and wanted to cut papers. Normally we would charge and pounce on her and take it away from her saying you will hurt yourself. This time for some unknown reason I LET IT BE.
Her sister saw and she ran away from her into another room.
Her mother saw and she ran further away.
She knew the scissors would be taken away from her. But they enquired and I said, she was cutting paper and they too LET IT BE.
She was cutting it so well, repeating the instructions that she would have learnt at Aura Montessori.
Now, cut like this.
Now, Move like this.
After a while she got confidence in me that I will not snatch away her game so she called me to sit beside her. Then, she said its your turn.
I went away inside. She came back and made a box like thing from paper and asked me write "Good Girl" on it. I did. She said Thank you and went away and made parallel cut into the cardboard.
Again she came, asking Write "good girl" here. Then she asked me to write "Good Papa" because I was helping her. Then she asked me write "Good Trisha" for her cousin sister. Then she asked me to write "Good Chacha" because he brought donuts a few days back.
When she angry she calls me "Bad girl".
When she is happy she calls me "Good girl".
Do we really need the "Good" label?