Moments so Far ...

We get stuck in positions. I am father and therefore I have to be strict, always discipling and If I fumble then my child will learn from it. I have to be very careful in my interactions with my child. I am manager and therefore I have to maintain a distance from my subordinates so that they will learn to respect and obey me. I have to be strict and disciplined in my approach otherwise I will not meet project deadlines. There is an element of fear. You do not want to be a bad father. You do not want to be bad manager. So you behave in certain way. The way that you have seen and been told. You dwell in a fixed belief system. The only loss is flexibility in your responses. You simply lose your creativity. Not a big loss compared to the grumpy and grudgy father/manager/spouse that you have become. Where is the fun? Fun is born out of creativity . Every moment you create a role. Every moment you play that role. Your role is not scripted by luck, God, society, peers, company c...

Your spouse makes a mistake, could be in business/relationships with kids. You knew all along that it was not the right decision but your spouse persisted and failed. How will you feel? How will your spouse feel? You decide to analyse the failure. How will you approach analysis/post-mortem? What intentions will you bring on the table of discussions? Will your intentions be pure? Will they be muddled with your personal victory of your assumptions? Will it be to prove that you were right? Will the conclusions be driven by your feeling better about their failure? Or, Will it be purely on learning's coming out of a failed decision? Mistakes happen. Actors change. When you make mistake you pray that world is turning a blind eye. When others fail you want to glide in with eagle's ferocity and rupture their flesh with your sheer momentum? What is the best way to empower failed people? Empower means to give power to a sulking soul. Poor thing has already lost the game...

Who is closest to you? Do you know someone whose every breath passes you by? Do you feel every body movement of this person? Do you notice every thought that walks past itself? How much do you know your self? How close are you with your Self? What is the relationship that you share? Do you converse enough? Do you easily communicate with the self? How do you get along with self? Have you ever considered befriending the self? Is she a distant relative whom you kind of remember, there are some glimpses from memory, i dont really recall the name but I will know it when I see it type? Once you develop a deep relationship with the self, you have created the roots of all relationships that branch out from it, as the self grows and expands so do the relationships with it. The easy way to know is energy flow from your self to you. From your soul to your body and back. The pathways are within. Have you noticed any traffic within? Relationships are like painting. Every stroke of ...

We are sitting opposite each other. This scenario could be in office,@home,@dining table,@playground,@coffee shop or in bus/train or plane. You could be a stranger, boss, subordinate, buddy, spouse or kid. If I feel easy and comfortable, I would also notice that there is free flow of energy. If I feel nervous, threatened, I would notice energy blockage, some spasm in some part of body, mostly around heart or stomach. You would also realize that first exchange of energy is healthy/natural and second one is depleting/exhausting/unnatural. Why did the energy block occur? I formed an opinion about you. I passed a judgement on you. Something like you are fat, ugly, ill-dressed, brown colored, stunted, too thin, sarcastic, silly persistent smile. Why did I form the judgement? You could have hurt me in a similar way as someone did in past, your current behaviour might be offensive to my likes/dislikes or you could be a perceived threat to me in my future. Something like subordinate ta...

The definition of success is very elusive. It means different things in different phases of life to different people. When I was in school and college it was to pass somehow. When I was in 12th it was to get into engineering somehow. When I was in job it was to make more money anyhow. When you were in marriage it was to demand happiness and feel proud in pronouncing to yourself that every act of a frustrating job was for the sake of family and their well being. I was focusing on doing. I was focusing on achievement. So whenever I reflected back in life I always felt less. I could have been an IITian, I could not crack CAT. I could not join an organization during their early stock offer days. I could not go to US and earn in dollars. I simply missed doing too many things.  Now I feel lack of achievement. Now I feel lack of doing. Did I miss out on something while I was undergoing all this doing? Why was I nervous all this while? Why did one achievement led to other? Why...

Dear Fellow VNIT Alums, It’s our privilege to invite you to the ALUMNI MEET of BANGALORE CHAPTER on 13th March, 2010 at NESARA, IISc Campus, Bangalore. It’s a great opportunity for us to interact with our batch mates and relish and refresh our past memories. It will be wonderful to see old friends after such a long time and foster new ties. This is also a good opportunity to build your network in Bangalore. The event will begin at 7:00 pm with a welcome and registration followed by 30 second introduction to each other. The introductions would be followed by a sumptuous dinner and networking and we will disperse at 10:00 pm. Please extend this invitation to your spouse and kids. It will be great to see them as well for the event. The event would require you to pay Rs 250/- per person (at the registration desk on the day of event) towards the arrangement for dinner and other amenities required for the event. Please confirm your participation by registering online at the link be...