An important step towards self realization is to go inwards. As long as the focus is outwards and on other person you will not be able to attain inner peace. The peace comes from self , within not without.
A software engineer doubts his spouse and appeals to a spiritual organization to call and correct his spouse.
A person who doubts is a person who is weak, who is low on self-esteem and who is already hurt and suffering.
On top of that if you add the weight of your anger, what will happen to your partner/friend/relative. Do you think your destructive approach, driven by your selfish ego will benefit the relationship. Are you sure you care enough to restore the dignity and peace in relationship?
You need a positive and peaceful environment for healthy relationships to flourish. If you have toxic thoughts what will happen to the organic life in spillage.
Why is it easy to accept people with physical handicap as they are? Is it easy for your ego to see the handicap and feel grateful that you are helping out the other person, or is it genuine concern thats reaching out in form of love.
Why is hard to see the mental handicap? A low self-esteem, an hurt ego, low confidence, weak and depleted soul. Why cannot you accept that person as they are? Why cannot you build an atmosphere in which that person gains confidences, builds self-esteem and feels dignified about themselves?
The only way you can do so is through self-realization. Introspect. Reach in. Touch yourself. Know who you are. A thought can shift your perspective.
Encourage positive thoughts. Its not natural for you to be positive in current mess but experiment and have faith. Your belief system and new perspective can do wonders on you and your neighborhood. Allow them. Give them a chance. Positivity is just a thought away.
Source: Awakening with Brahmakumaris - Shivani - www.brahmakumaris.com
Peace and Purity: The Story of the Brahma Kumaris, A Spiritual Revolution